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I took a huge step in humility and asked a couple trusted people in my life about what it is like to be in my life.
This another huge step in undoing my tactic of self sabotage, to be humble and know that I do sabotage myself by not expressing what I need. And while I don't know what that is exactly yet, I am going to keep searching. In the mean time, please use this information wisely.
I wont tell you WHO said what, and I will continue to update the collection, but here is the advice of the people around me, on how to deal with me, and how to make me happy. May I learn from those around me & learn to make myself the happiest.
"Treat her like your best friend, invite her to do the things you do and go do things she likes as well. Take her on every adventure possible. She is always goin got be your rock when you need one, make sure you can anchor yourself when she needs it too. She will never Need you in her life, but she chose you because she wants you, so don't take that for granted. And remember to treat her like a Queen, but in the bedroom treat her like a back alley wh**. She is the best, and she will make you happy so make sure that making her happy is a priority to you"
"Don't hurt her or I'll break your fingers off one at a time, with pliers"
"I would tell them to genuinely listen when you talk about your hobbies and creative work. Especially if they're not wired that way and don't get it, because it means so much. -- I would also tell them not to be worried if you seem a little abrasive at times. You're a super sweet person, but I think because you've never had someone just love you it freaks you out a little bit. Men are dense sometimes and don't get that."
"If she calls, and needs to talk, just listen to her. She will figure it out on her own, she just needs someone to be there and make her feel heard. She gets worked up easily and will twist herself into knots, but she just needs someone who isn't feeling her feelings to hold her hand while she unravels her own knots. That's really all you have to do.
When you do want to help her, ask questions first, but only after she's calmed down, otherwise you'll get the opposite answer and she won't ask for help again.
Don't be afraid to show her off, you'll reap those rewards your whole life if you do."
"The most important thing to know about her is that she wants to be loved with a lasting, strong love. She is not interested in platitudes or pleasantries. She wants the truth. Deep down inside however, she longs for the kind of friendship/love that goes beyond her own failures. She wants to be loved with all her shortcomings & personal weaknesses. She wants to be vulnerable without fear of being taken advantage of in her weakness. In short, she wants too be loved for who she is not some expectation that she cannot live up to. To be a true friend to Sydney is to be honest with her but from a heart of kindness. She will reciprocate that kind of love & will be loyal from a heart that loves deeply."
Do not treat her like an option. If the word option is in your vocabulary, it needs to be next to 'only'. Sydney is wonderful, and will give you everything she has, don't end up regretting letting her go. She knows her worth and will not be one of many, she wants to be your one and only.
Can I use song quotes?
"Be careful try not to lead her on Shawty's heart was on steroids Cause her love was so strong
You may fall in love When you meet her If you get the chance you better keep her She swears by it but if you break her heart She turn cold as a freezer"
that one Katy Perry song you always listen to?
More to come when I hear back from people. If you are someone who knows me personally, and has for more than a couple of years, feel free to answer the question yourself and send it to me to go in this post.
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